Author: Alex Gino
I did a review yesterday but after thinking about this book and talking about it with my mom, I want to add some thoughts.
The book is really good at not only explaining but showing microaggression. It helps to show how when we put people in a box because of physical traits, we are saying they are not good enough. The desire to fix or ignore the difference is hurtful.
I experience this with my ADHD. People think a medication can make it go away. But it doesn’t. Medication helps me get through the emotions ADHD brings up, but I am still ADHD. I like my ADHD (most days). I want to be fun impulsive like my mom (not dangerous impulsive). I like the mixed up way my brain works and I don’t want to change that. I know it is hard for some of my teachers but it is who I am.
In the book, Jilly wants to fix everything for her sister, who is deaf. But that isn’t Jilly’s job. Jilly isn’t deaf. It isn’t her world. She makes mistakes along the way, apologizes and is open to corrections, even though it hurts. She learns to be her sister’s ally. That Jilly’s job.
She stands up for her family against her family being hurtful. That is hard and uncomfortable but she still does it. It is hard to realize some of our own family can be the ones being hurtful or racist or wrong.
Jilly starts to understand that for her some things may be uncomfortable but for others it is unsafe. She learns to recognize those moments and think about how it must feel for those who are unsafe. Those of us uncomfortable need to use our voices for those who are unsafe.
Derek makes a really good point that people see him. They see a black deaf boy. But that is not all of him. If we stop at that, we don’t a see a person. We will never really know them. We need to look beyond the surface to see the soul of the person. That is who they are .
Okay enough second thoughts. I think a lot of the books I am reading are going to be like this. My thoughts will grow on it even after I do the review.